The need for gender neutral third person singular English pronouns has been apparent and tried since the birth of its modern form.

True Neutral PronounsEdit

True neutral pronouns are pronouns that can be applied to any person regardless of gender. Most pronouns in use by the trans/nonbinary community are not neutral, and could be considered nonbinary pronouns instead, as they are gendered as such.

Singular They/Them/ThemselfEdit

One truly neutral pronoun in use is singular they/them. This pronoun, while debated by linguistic purists, has been in use since at least Shakespeare's time. It is most commonly used to refer to a person whose gender is not known, for example, "Someone is at the door, I wonder who they are." 

It is widespread etiquette within trans communities to use singular they until a person's pronouns are known. From that point on, if the person's pronouns are not singular they, it would be misgendering to refer to them as such. 


While the pronoun "one" is traditionally an indefinite pronoun, roughly meaning "a person" and is thus gender neutral. With the need for new pronouns, it has been adapted by many as a third person singular pronoun, changing it to be specific and definite. This pronoun is one of only a handful of pronouns in use by trans/nonbinary people that is truly gender neutral.


Another truly neutral pronoun is "it". While "it" is typically used to refer to objects or animals, there are a handful of trans/nonbinary people who feel most comfortable using these than any other pronoun. Others find this pronoun used as a personal set to be dehumanizing and indignate.

Nonbinary PronounsEdit

Pronoun neologisms are the norm among trans/nonbinary communities. While many of the pronouns in use may be decades old, such as Spivak, Elverson, MacKay, or humanist pronouns, while others could have been coined recently for a lack of nonbinary pronouns.

Common pronouns Edit

  • ze/hir/hir/hirs/hirself
  • ze/zir/zir/zirs/zirself
  • xe/xem/xyr/xyrs/xemself
  • ey/em/eir/eirs/emself
  • e/em/eir/eirs/emself
  • ne/nem/nir/nirs/nemself
  • ve/ver/vis/vis/verself

Noun-Based Pronouns Edit

Some people feel their gender rates to a noun, and feel confident in a noun-based pronoun set. The most common one for a noun based pronoun to be phrased is nounself. For example, if a person's gender related to doors, for example, doors pronouns could be door/doors/doorself. These types of pronouns would classify as being nonbinary pronouns generally, but people with binary genders (boy, girl, man, woman etc) could also use a noun based pronoun set.

Binary Pronouns Edit

DISCLAIMER: There are two sets of binary pronouns which are most commonly used, but some people with binary genders use atypical pronouns. This section is not to invalidate their relation to their gender, however is to educate people on the most commonly used pronoun sets by people with binary genders. Friendly reminder that pronouns do not equal gender and that people who use pronouns atypical to their gender are just as valid as people as those who use typical pronoun sets,

He/Him/Himself Edit

The pronouns he and him have typically been used to refer to men and boys, however it also has had a previous historic context of being a default pronoun for an non-specified person, likely due to the patriarchal societies which developed the English language. That being said, in a modern setting, the pronoun "he" gives the impression of a man being the person being referred to. Another popular non-man usage of he/him pronouns are he/him lesbians. This could be because of the historical context of butch lesbians using he in lesbophobic societies, or for other reasons. Overall, it depends on the pronoun user and what makes him comfortable.

She/Her/Herself Edit

The pronouns she and her have typically been used by women and girls.